Red-Haired Ash Reads

“The label of asexual should be value neutral. It should indicate little more than sexual orientation. Instead, asexual implies a slew of other, negative associations: passionless, uptight, boring, robotic, cold, prude, frigid, lacking, broken. These, especially broken, are the words aces use again and again to describe how we are perceived and made to feel.”

This was an informative and eye opening book. This is a very well researched and in-depth look at asexuality. It includes personal experiences from ace people that Chen interviewed, as well as her own personal experiences. She discusses the many different facets of asexuality and the different attitudes towards sex ace people can have, such as sex favorable, sex indifferent, sex repulsed, etc. 

This book made me question everything I know about sexuality and helped me understand some of my own views on sex. There were times where the experiences discussed in this book aligned with my own and made me realize that what I have experienced is normal. I just need someone to tell me it wasn’t just me. This book definitely makes you think more critically of your own sexuality and lines between friendships or romantic relationships. 

This is a book that I feel everyone needs to read, especially since the current culture around sexuality isn’t healthy at all. Also if you are questioning your sexual experiences or lack there of, this book is a great place to start. 

---

Goodreads | Amazon

---